My tribute to moms honors one in particular. I’ve never met her. We’ve only corresponded online. She wrote to me two weeks ago, and her words have been swirling around my mind with hopefulness. Here’s the note.
“I have two boys and my oldest plays with his friends’ dolls, Barbies, or tea sets. He also watches “My Little Pony” and loves all of the Tinker Bell movies. (I have seen The Pirate Fairy at least 6 times already.) He gets pedicures with me and has his toes painted blue. While he does play with cars and Legos, plays video games and loves superheroes, he doesn’t see anything being boys or girls’ toys or movies. I have never told him, “That’s for girls or boys, don’t do that.” But I have seen the effect on society when even kids his own age say, “You shouldn’t do that.” And while it saddens me, my son just looks at them and shrugs it off.
“I love my son’s view of the world because most adults will never see what he sees. He has never asked, “Why does that person look that way?” or “Why are they like that?” He accepts everybody for who they are. While I don’t think he is going to be gay or transgendered when he grows up – I could be wrong – I will accept him no matter what, as long as he is happy.”
On Mother’s Day, I’ll be celebrating this fierce mom and others like her who reject gender stereotyping and just let their kids be. They’re focused on raising happy sons and daughters. They teach self-worth and the value of people around them. They show strength and courage and teach kids to have hope. As my son once pointed out to me, MOM upside down spells WOW.
Good article. I loved it. Especially since it was my daughter that wrote to you about my grandson.
Thanks, Ken! That’s quite the daughter you have there. You must be so proud. And of your grandson, too! 🙂 xo
Happy Mother’s Day to you, Julie! I am sure Harry is just as proud of you as you are of him. You’re a great mother and a shining light to many mothers out there! I love the picture of you and baby Harry!
Thanks so much for the kind words, Laura! I think Harry is proud of me. 🙂 xo
I have hope that this generation will be the one that finally sees people as themselves and not as what OTHERS think they should be. There are some good signs including the mindset of these young people. With parents like you and the ones who wrote you, I hope it keeps going in this direction!
I like the way you think, Kat! And I feel it, too. This generation is def on the leading edge of real social change. xo
Dearest gorgeous cousin,
It all starts with gentle self-acceptance.
You are the prettiest of Tarkovkas, going back to the first ones in Neolithic Russia.
Keep this great blog coming. It is necessary!
Happy Mother’s Day.
Thanks, Rickshala, dahlink. Luckily, we believed in our own worthiness no matter what anyone else said or did. I so want others to know it for themselves. xo
I am extremely proud, and can’t wait to see them all in July when we visit. Thanks.
Always, always, always something to learn from you Jules, and the upside down MUM is priceless 🙂 xxx
Thank you, Suzanne. And kids do get it from every angle, right?! xo