No Mother’s Day brunch for me this year. Nope. My day will start literally at the stroke of midnight, where the NYC drag explosion known as Bushwig will be in the throes of heating up New Orleans, LA. And I’m so excited! I’ll be at that party of queer performance, music and love with my kid Harry, aka drag artist Mz. Amber Alert. Even though Amber won’t be taking the stage —  this is a vacation for her as well, I know my kid will be dressed in an utterly fabulous look. Or, knowing him, maybe even two looks.

I’ll be wearing the killer dress I ordered from Tyler Wallach Studio. (Btw, my super creative and fun friend Tyler  created the finale Red Carpet look for RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 8 winner, Bob the Drag Queen.)

Brooklyn artist and designer Tyler Wallach & me. My dress is in the “American Beauty” print on his shirt.

Choices, choices, choices.

I was faced with a fashion dilemma this week, though. How I could wear that amazing dress AND the incredible silk palazzo pants I found while vintage-thrift shopping with Harry in Milwaukee recently. Our shopping adventures always yield the best finds! Harry can spot a Fendi skirt on a Salvation Army rack from across the room. I know that because there’s one such garment hanging in my closet. But this time, the palazzo pants with gold metallic tufts in a swirly aqua and purple print that I pulled off the rack for Harry actually ended up fitting me. So here’s how it’s going down.

“Be bold, Mom! You’re going to be competing with drag queens, so no matter what you do it won’t look like too much.”

Bushwig South starts at 2pm Saturday with a line up of non-stop fun until 4am on Mother’s Day. There’s NO WAY I can make it through without a disco nap in there somewhere. So I’ll start out in my fab new dress and then later change into my mom’s day celebration palazzos before midnight. My former fashion insultant turned personal fashion consultant Harry has a couple of ideas on what I can wear with those fantastic pants. He’s even offered to pack something from his wardrobe as an option.

Be bold.

When I asked Harry about wearing some bright eyeshadow, he replied, “Be bold, Mom! You’re going to be competing with drag queens, so no matter what you do it won’t look like too much.” As for what the ever-fashionable Mz. Amber Alert will be wearing, I’m sure my looks will fall closer to the Amish end of the fashion scale in comparison. I may not look as good as the other queens, but I’m sure going to feel like one.

If you’re also a mom, I hope you’re celebrated this weekend for your unconditional love, support and protection. If I’ve learned one thing from Harry, it’s that our kids are not here to live out our expectations for them. Pass it on, and allow yourself to be queen for a day.

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